Song Of The Week
Somebody Else by The 1975
Mood: Realizing you can’t have someone you love.
Let’s take a look at something universal: Heartbreak.
When our best friend is heartbroken, we try to comfort him/her in any way you can because you know they are very sad. We try to empathize with them by trying to recall what it feels like from past experiences.
After a brief speech on your endless empathy, we drown them with advice that helped in our previous heartbreaks. We tell them, ”God will heal you! Just pray about it and wait on the Lord and He will deliver you out of this time of sorrow.” Then we continue telling them about how they will surely find someone better in the future, someone who was ordained by God to be their significant other. At the end of the day, we go home feeling like a champ; “we were of great help,” we think to ourselves.
Things are different when you’re the one who gets heartbroken, though.
First, there’s the shock. Did that really happen? Did she/he just reject me? It takes a while for your mind to register what had happened. It takes even longer for your heart to do the same.
Then, it sinks in. She’s/He’s really gone. This is it. There’re no more ‘what if’s and maybes. The pain started to settle, all the way to the bottom of your heart. When it does, the hurt hits you all at once, like swallowing a pill too large. You feel the whole world crumbling. Your worst nightmares just became real. There’s nothing else to look forward to. A sharp pain in your heart rings all day, for days, maybe even weeks, or months. This pang just won’t go away. You see the world in black and blue.
We get so comfortable in this destructive loop – the pain, the hopelessness, and the weariness – that after a while, we live in it. We don’t actively seek to escape. Most of the time, we forget there’s another side to life, one that isn’t all dark and empty.
Therefore, we don’t encourage ourselves to get better. Instead, we feed off of the loop.
There is a difference in perspective when you’re going through something versus when you’re watching someone go through a similar thing. The difference is a perspective of resignation as compared to the perspective of encouragement.
See, God wants to heal you. But just like therapy and medication, it’s always a choice. It’s your choice to want to get better, and a bigger choice to take action.
Therefore, you have to choose to put yourself in your place. Empathize with yourself. Treat yourself like how you would love a bereaved friend: With encouragement.
Let’s take a look at Psalm 77: It starts depicting David’s agony.
“When I was in distress, I sought the Lord; at night I stretched out untiring hands, and I would not be comforted.”
Psalm 77:2 NIV
Then, listening to himself wallow for 9 verses, David’s conversation shifted!
“Your ways, God, are holy. What god is as great as our God? You are the God who performs miracles; you display your power among the peoples. With your mighty arm you redeemed your people, the descendants of Jacob and Joseph.”
Psalm 77:13-15 NIV
Sure, he was honoring God, praising God because He’s God, but that wasn’t just it. In fact, I’m sure it was mostly for himself. David was preaching to himself. He took hold of the conversation. He put himself in his own shoes.
There will be times where just plainly preaching to yourself won’t be enough to encourage yourself. In these times, remember this: You can’t receive a miracle if your heart is closed.
There is a God who wants to give us the blessings each one of us deserve. Whether we want to receive it is completely up to us and our attitudes.
So we should stop spending time listening to ourselves and start preaching to ourselves, otherwise, we’ll be missing out on all the miracles God desires for us.
God bless you and spend the week preaching to yourselves!